Chapter 20: Disclosure Decency
universal tool set five tools designed to promote self-regulation and/or honest communication by anyone having interaction with the opposite sex, especially where there is a sexual interest between one or both parties; consists of the Count Card, QC Quotas, Friends-Plus, Money Matters, and Brutal Bands tools
count card tool a universal tool specifically designed to promote honest communication by anyone having interaction with the opposite sex, and not just with others, but themselves as well; allows an individual to keep track of and subsequently communicate their personal sexual encounter activity levels, from making out (first base), breast contact (second base), aroused genitalia contact (third base) to genitalia/anus penetration (home plate), whether opposite sex or same sex, and if a newcomer for that calendar year, i.e., flirt year, or if a repeater from a previous flirt year
QC quotas tool a universal tool specifically designed to promote self-regulation by anyone having interaction with the opposite sex; allows an individual to set limits on their personal hooking up and dating activity levels, including non-business-related contact call info exchanges, first dates, making out and aroused genitalia contacts, collectively or separately by opposite sex or same sex people, for an upcoming calendar year, i.e., flirt year; also provides normative “benchmark” values for each quota category based on United Genders Sexuality Council annual sex surveys
friends-plus tool a universal tool specifically designed to promote self-regulation by anyone having interaction with the opposite sex, as well as honest communication not just with others, but with themselves; assists in clearly agreeing to standards for company time with opposite-sex people in terms of hooking up with each other, or exchanging contact call info and/or sex with others met during that particular public outing
money matters tool a universal tool specifically designed to promote self-regulation by anyone having interaction with the opposite sex, as well as honest communication not just with others, but with themselves; assists in clearly agreeing to standards for personal loans between opposite-sex people, establishing terms which both parties can abide by with dignity
brutal bands tool a universal tool specifically designed to promote self-regulation by anyone having interaction with the opposite sex, as well as honest communication not just with others, but with themselves; allows an individual to easily inform interested parties whether they are sexually available at the moment; different color ring bands: green, yellow or red represent how one has a current speak-daily or near daily partner, and is operating in a honestly non-monogamous, dishonestly monogamous or honestly monogamous manner, respectively; for those single, i.e., currently without a speak-daily or near daily partner, no band is worn
partnership tool set five tools designed to promote honest communication between two people currently having sexual relations, especially those in a speak-daily partnership; consists of the Reverse Rule, Just-a-Friend, Titillation Advisory, Cheat Sheet, and Eight Buckets tools
reverse rule tool a partnership tool specifically designed to promote honest communication between two people currently having sexual relations, especially those in a speak-daily partnership; a contract enabling partners to establish a clear and concise understanding of what each is comfortable with, i.e., what is okay or not okay, when they are apart; acknowledges respective male/female roles and operation strategies
just-a-friend tool a partnership tool specifically designed to promote honest communication between two people currently having sexual relations, especially those in a speak-daily partnership; easily sets not-present partner expectations of how an arranged casual outing with a third party opposite-sex person can end up sexual encounter-wise; also designed for reporting on those who one has an unplanned historical or current people pool person or people public encounter
titillation advisory tool a partnership tool specifically designed to promote honest communication between two people currently having sexual relations, especially those in a speak-daily partnership; gives a high-level notice to one’s partner about what one is up to at the moment in terms of one’s sexual presentations; coding system: sophisticated presentation (green); sexy presentation (blue); seductive presentation (yellow); slutty presentation (orange); sex act in progress (red)
cheat sheet tool a partnership tool specifically designed to promote honest communication between two people currently having sexual relations, especially those in a speak-daily partnership; gives a partner an explicit means to fill in the details the next day, following a non-partner night out in the human jungles; relies on the TNT track to a sex act for the breakdown of activities one might participate in with the opposite sex, and if female, with a fellow female
eight buckets tool a partnership tool specifically designed to promote honest communication between two people currently having sexual relations, especially those in a speak-daily partnership; allows partners, in a non-intrusive way, to communicate regularly about their respective people pools and who might be up next for a sex act, or who one is currently having sexual encounters with
? flirt year the twelve-month period from January 1st to December 31st for the tallying of one’s sexual encounters: making out (first base), breast contact (second base), aroused genitalia contact (third base), and genitalia/anus penetration (home plate), split between newcomers and repeaters from previous flirt years
newcomer a recent arrival of first-time sexuality-related activity in a given flirt year, broken down between any type of sexual encounter and explicit aroused genitalia contact
repeater a sexuality-related activity that repeats at least once in a given flirt year with the same person from a prior flirt year, broken down between any type of sexual encounter and explicit aroused genitalia contact
virgin-like the first of four official labels used in the process of being honest with oneself and informing others on one’s sexuality level for a particular calendar year, i.e., flirt year; no more than four unique aroused genitalia contacts of either gender, whether a newcomer or a repeater from a prior flirt year
promiscuous the second of four official labels used in the process of being honest with oneself and informing others on one’s sexuality level for a particular calendar year, i.e., flirt year; five to twelve unique aroused genitalia contacts of either gender, whether a newcomer or a repeater from a prior flirt year
slugger the third of four official labels used in the process of being honest with oneself and informing others on one’s sexuality level for a particular calendar year, i.e., flirt year; thirteen to twenty-four unique aroused genitalia contacts of either gender, whether a newcomer or a repeater from a prior flirt year
MVP abbrev, M(ost) V(ersatile) P(enis) or M(ost) V(ersatile) P(ussy); the fourth of four offical labels used in the process of being honest with oneself and informing others on one’s sexuality level for a particular calendar year, i.e., flirt year; twenty-five or more unique aroused genitalia contacts of either gender, whether a newcomer or a repeater from a prior flirt year
rock star an unofficial fifth label used in the process of being honest with oneself and informing others on one’s sexuality level for a particular calendar year, i.e., flirt year; fifty or more unique aroused genitalia contacts of either gender, whether a newcomer or a repeater from a prior flirt year
friends-only the first of four categories making up the Friends-Plus tool; communicates upfront how two people sharing company time in public will definitely not hook-up themselves, and can definitely proceed to exchange both contact call info and even sex with another that same evening
friends-plus-lusters the second of four categories making up the Friends-Plus tool; communicates upfront how two people sharing company time in public might or might not hook-up themselves, and can definitely proceed to exchange both contact call info and even sex with another that same evening or eventually
friends-plus-likers the third of four categories making up the Friends-Plus tool; communicates upfront how two people sharing company time in public will likely hook-up themselves, how they can definitely exchange contact call info with another, but must refrain from hooking up with them that same evening
friends-plus-lovers the forth of four categories making up the Friends-Plus tool; communicates upfront how two people sharing company time in public will likely hook-up themselves, but are disallowed to exchange contact call info with another, and also must refrain from hooking up with them that same evening
R2 female abbrev. R(ight) sex presentation factor and R(ight) accessibility; addresses how the male, especially the sexually unavailable one, will be tempted to have sex and might end up in trouble with no less than one in ten females who will come along with the right sex presentation factor, and if the scenario offers the right accessibility
R8 male abbrev. R(ight) look, smell, sense of humor, and power, R(ight) time, and place, and R(ight) amount of alcohol consumed; addresses how the female, especially the sexually unavailable one, will be tempted to have sex and might end up in trouble with some specific fixed number of males who will come along with the right look, smell, sense of humor, power, and approach, at the right time and place, all combined with the right amount of alcohol consumption by the female
new business account a newly formed sexual partnership which is less than six weeks old; falls into “backdoor account” status when there is already a main partner
open account an ongoing sexual partnership which is greater than six weeks old; falls into “backdoor account” status when there is already a main partner
lay-away account a past sexual partnership which is considered currently inactive but likely to become active again; falls into “backdoor account” status when there is already a main partner
closed account a past sexual partnership which is purported to be terminated for good; falls into “backdoor account” status when there is already a main partner
bucket one one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, yet no words have been exchanged as of yet
bucket two one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, along with first words being exchanged
lucky break a by chance scenario where one has a first time verbal interaction with a person one has noticed for some length of time prior; running into an individual one finds sexually interesting, outside of the common venue from which they know of them, giving cause for a first time verbal interaction; accidentally, or possibly strategically, bumping into a sexually interesting person physically, or at least their personal space at an ongoing common venue
bucket three one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, first full conversations, and exchange of first names
bucket four one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, wherein contact call info has been exchanged and personal topic conversations are held; picture sharing is likely, but not picture posing
bucket five one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, and on top of contact call info exchanges and personal topic conversations being held, compliments are shared, gift giving, subsidies, and/or extending personal favors can take place, and conversations about sex can arise; posing for pictures together while mostly clothed is possible
bucket six one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, and on top of contact call info exchanges, personal topic conversations being held, compliments being shared, gift giving, subsidies, and/or extending personal favors taking place, and conversations about sex arising, first and/or second bases are reached; posing for pictures together semi-nude is possible
bucket seven one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, and on top of contact call info exchanges, personal topic conversations being held, compliments being shared, giving, subsidies, and/or extending personal favors taking place, and conversations about sex arising, along with first and/or second bases being reached, aroused genitalia contact begins; posing for pictures naked solo or together is possible
bucket eight one of eight categories, or buckets, within the Eight Buckets tool; recognition of a mutual attraction between two people, and on top of contact call info exchanges, personal topic conversations being held, compliments being shared, gift giving, subsidies, and/or extending personal favors taking place, and conversations about sex arising, first and/or second bases being reached, along with aroused genitalia contacts, the incorporation of anal sex, toys and/or third parties begins; posing for pictures naked with toys and even others is possible
managed monogamy promising monogamy with certain provisions for having sexual encounters with third parties, independent of one’s partner
sixty-five degrees rule a rule but forth by the Paul B. Wright in 2012 which states that when local outdoor temperatures are consistently over sixty-five degrees it is far less sensible to enter into a monogamy promise; a mostly unspoken fact in America that when it gets hot during the summer, both males and females will tend to stay away from taking monogamy seriously, that is, practicing it
social suspension one of four forms of penalties acting as an alternative to fighting or partner contract termination; initiated upon a partner coming clean about a non-negotiated R/NC-17 rated flaunting situation, short of a physical sexual encounter; a form of being grounded via temporary bans on not-present partner alcohol consumption and/or dance outings; smart phone privileges, including the blocking of certain numbers of friends, and especially any new opposite-sex people met during that outing, can also be imposed
sexuality sanction one of four forms of penalties acting as an alternative to fighting or partner contract termination; initiated upon a partner getting nailed about a non-negotiated R/NC-17 rated flaunting situation, short of a physical sexual encounter; can be in addition to social suspensions; for the male, subsidy sanctions including discontinued use of his favorite credit card; for the female, fashion-related sex-sidy sanctions including discontinued use of extremely high heels, plunging necklines, short skirt hemlines, and visible or no panties at all
free pass one of four forms of penalties acting as an alternative to fighting or partner contract termination; initiated upon a partner coming clean about a non-negotiated sexual encounter situation; can be in addition to social suspensions and sexuality sanctions; for either partner physically cheated on, an eye-for-an-eye remedy providing the option for them to do same with another
fraud fine one of four forms of penalties acting as an alternative to fighting or partner contract termination; initiated upon one partner getting nailed about a non-negotiated sexual encounter situation, can be in addition to social suspensions, sexuality sanctions, and a free pass to do same with another; for the partner physically cheated on, a monetary fine can be negotiated and either paid in full or over time
early termination fee upon a premature and typically unilateral sexual partnership contract termination, an optional financial penalty is imposed on any non-paying terminating partner